I felt the pressure: The future of my people was at stake! The school was arty, musical, nerdy, and had a substantial Jewish population. Even though I no longer felt outside the norm, I still had trouble getting dates … Every Jewish woman I asked out on a date rejected me.I resolved that I would only go out with Jewish girls. I attributed this to the fact that I was kind of nerdy: My extra-curricular activities included musical theater, video games, and Dungeons & Dragons, not exactly the types of things that made a guy popular with the ladies. I had numerous opportunities, on the other hand, to date non-Jewish women.In several places in the Jewish Bible, there are relations which appear to be intermarriages - for example, King David is described as marrying the daughter of the king of Geshur, (PLease note - this is not what Nehemaih cited refers to. refers to not buying grain on the Sabbath and forgiving debts in the 7th year.That decree was probably even more damaging to them than the original decree of expulsion from Spain because it indicated that this time the Inquisition-Church-Christian society was far more serious than anything previous.Within the first 50 years after the expulsion, there was a steady exodus of Marranos from the Iberian Peninsula.lighting candles on Friday night or eating unleavened bread with the onset of spring — it was treated by later generations as nothing more than a mysterious family tradition.As far as religion was concerned, they were Catholic.
But as I fell in love with her, she fell in love with me—and with my Judaism as well.
In high school, this decision proved to be mostly moot. I tried not to follow up on them at first, but I was frustrated and lonely and had finite willpower.
After one date, though, I would beat myself up mentally for breaking my rule, and I’d avoid making second dates.
The lesson: Don’t date a goy or the ultimate destruction of world Jewry will be your fault.
Flash forward to 2017, and for many American Jews, myself included, there has been a seismic shift in how we view intermarriage.