But the science doesn't stop there (unless we're under the Bush Administration).
According to researchers from Stony Brook University, it's so hard to let go of exes is because they're actually crack. This time it's kind of like the Robert Palmer song.
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We went out about 2-3 times per week and generally seemed to have a great time together.
But as the weeks have passed, although I continue to feel strong and lingering feelings for my ex, my feelings for the new (beta, completely out of my usual range of attraction) guy have started growing.
He’s keen to progress things but I’ve kept him at arms-length (with honesty and openness about why).
I find myself doubting all my feelings, not least because of the betrayal that I am still processing. Dear Susan, Thanks for the smart and self-aware email. There are two issues here that I want to address separately: I take a pretty cerebral approach to dating, but ultimately, relationships are about what’s in your heart. Is it generally a risky bet to date someone on the rebound? But do people on the rebound fall in love every day? Ultimately, you will never know what kind of relationship you have on your hands until you let down your guard and stop keeping him at arm’s length.
Then you decide to move on very quickly with someone else because they make you dead happy, which is also more than OK.
Paulette goes on to say that it’s important to make sure you’re not in post-breakup mode when you get with someone else, as that could be you trying to fill that hole with a new relationship.
magazine about the one rule we probably all want to know the answer to – how soon is too soon, and when should we move on after a break up.
According to Pauette, if you dated for less than a year you should wait a month before moving on, and if you dated someone for longer than a year you might need three to four months.